You can’t fix him… and why that matters.

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I have spent about a year wanting to write about God-centered relationships but my heart wasn’t in the right place. I felt like a hypocrite.

My ex-boyfriend is a “Christian”. However, we didn’t view our faith in the same way. He believed in God, but didn’t like going to church, praying, reading the Bible, getting involved in youth group or even talking with me about how amazing the God we serve really is.

Depending on where you are in your relationship with God, that might not seem like a big deal to you. But for me, it was. My relationship with God comes first in my life and I wanted to be with someone who felt the same way. I spent a lot of time asking God whether or not I should be in a relationship with this guy and whether or not he was a part of God’s plan for my life. I so badly wanted Him to show me the “right” path to take. Beyond that, I wasted countless times listing pros and cons trying to figure out if being with this guy long term was something that I really wanted.

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Identity Crisis? Call it what you will.

Contributor: Emmarie Moon

I’ve been hearing a lot about identity the last couple of months and really felt a continuous nudge to write about it. What is identity? The word itself means the qualities, beliefs, etc. that make a person/group different from others; who someone is. Everyone has an identity. As you get older, the sense you have of who you are becomes stronger and more in depth. Children might say they are a daughter/son, student, classmate, teammate and friend. As we get older, we start to broaden our views of who are, including our job, car, spouse, kids, even personality traits. These are all good things to associate with, but are not where identity comes from.

You may be wondering why on earth I’m writing this blog if I’m just going to rip your sense of who you are right out from under you. Don’t worry, I’ll give it back. But it might look a little different.

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Sticks and Stones

“Sticks and stones may break your bones…. but words will hurt too.”

You’re fat.

I don’t like you.

You’re ugly.

Your’e dumb.

It’s amazing how hurtful words can be when we put our confidence in what people think.

[Insert the big BUT (with one “t”) here]

BUT You are more than your weight.

BUT You are more than your popularity.

BUT You are more than your beauty.

BUT You are more than your brains.

You are His.

Girls are picked at, made fun of, and sometimes put down just for being a girl. Watch this video and be reminded that God created you to be powerful, confident, and brave.

The Power of the “Like”

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Popularity.

Aka – the favor of the general public….or something that used to be measured by whether or not you were offered an invitation to sit at the cool girl’s table at lunch.

But today we often judge our social status by the number of likes our latest post on Facebook or Instagram receives.

We’ve all done it. Posted a picture or updated a status only to check our computers or phones every five minutes to see if anyone has liked it yet. Once the first person likes it there is an instant relief at being accepted. Someone thinks I’m as cool as I want them too!

BUT…it’s followed almost immediately by the desire for another and another and another person’s approval. Especially if your friend has posted something at the same time as you OR something similar. Then it becomes an all-out war to see who is more “liked”.

This vicious cycle will repeat itself: two, five, twenty, maybe fifty times a day. The “Like” button has dangerous power over us that we don’t really want to acknowledge, but we know it’s there. We fear no being accepted. We fear not having peoples favor. We fear we are unlikable.

The Bible has something awesome to say about this, and I think that you’ll agree with me when I say that it’s pretty right on.

Proverbs 29:25 (GNB) “It is dangerous to be concerned with what others think of you, but if you trust the Lord you are safe.”

When we place our value in what others think of us it is dangerous. Flat out. It gives people power they are not equipped to manage well. In the case of social media it’s not only what they say that concerns us but also what they don’t say. It’s not so much the fear of someone writing “Woah, that’s a horrible picture,” but the lack of “likes” that has us trying to find the perfect filter for our latest Instagram.

But God is so faithful. Not only does He take the time to point out to us that placing value in what others think is dangerous, but He tells us “Hey, trust in Me and you are safe.”

The definition of safe is: to feel protected from or not exposed to danger or risk; to be secure, protected, shielded, sheltered, guarded, and out of harm’s way.

Doesn’t that sound wonderful! I mean seriously, in a world where every part of your appearance, wit, humor, intelligence, and experiences are on display for the world to see who doesn’t want to feel safe?

I’m not saying to not participate in social media. It can be an awesome tool when used properly! It’s fun! It keeps you connected! I’m just suggesting that next time you post something be conscious. Choose to find your identity wrapped safely in the arms of your Heavenly Father. Know whose you are. You don’t need the acceptance and approval of the masses or even of one. That is not where your identity lies.

Placing your value in the hands of people is risky business, but placing it in God’s hands will never disappoint. You will always be safe.

Discounted Candy & Cheap Romance

One of the best things after Valentine’s Day? Getting a sweet-tooth fix… for cheap.

Just walk into Target and you’ll find aisles of discounted Valentine’s Day chocolate. Pink colored m&m’s, a box of Russel Stover’s candies, heart-shaped Sweet Tarts…. they’ve got it all.

Unfortunately, it’s not just the candy that is devalued  post-Valentine’s Day. It’s the relationships too.

How many broken hearts do you think there have been since Valentine’s Day?? (and I’m not talking about the strawberry filled ones)

I’m talking about real hearts, hearts that were supposedly head-over-heels “in love”, pumped up on the artificial flavoring of  Valentine’s sweets, thinking it was the real thing. But insincere love is only sweet for a moment.

Valentine’s Day is over. The candy goes on sale. And just like so many girls buy the cheap candy, they buy into cheap love. They trade long-lasting love for a sugary rush of the moment. They make excuses for guys that don’t treat them the way they should. They date a guy that doesn’t respect them for who they are. They settle for second best.

Don’t get me wrong, some girls experience the type of Valentine’s Day that everyone dreams of. It’s sweet, you spend the day with an amazing guy God has blessed you with, and you make memories that will last forever.

But whether you were single, are single, or in a relationship, always seek God’s best for you: a relationship with Jesus Christ.

There is no greater love than Love that comes from God.

His love is never cheap.

It cost Jesus his life. He paid everything, laid down His life, for us. That’s not a cheapened romance. That’s true love.

Chartreuse…. my new discovery

We discover new things everyday.
New ways of looking at life.
New things about ourselves.
New truths in scripture.
New ways to do our hair.
But… it isn’t very often that we discover a new color.

Blue.

Pink.

Red.

Yellow.

We know all the basics. We know the crayola crayon colors. Most of us have known our favorite color since kindergarten. But, the fashion world continues to introduce us to new shades of color. Sapphire. Coral. Mint. And one of the latest colors… Chartreuse.

It’s taken me a while to learn how to spell it.

Chartrusse.

Charrtruse.

Chartroose.

Chartreuse.

Yeah. The last one is right. It’s a beautiful mix of green and yellow.

 

It’s so great to live in a world that’s full of discovery. Whether it’s a new favorite color or something new we learn in school, the world is full of surprises! God sure didn’t make this a boring world….

Some things stay the same

Some things stay the same

It would be much easier to simply say “forget about it” or “let’s just move on”. But how can we act as if the next 4 years of our country are unaffected by the election results? Whether you are an Obama fan or not, the next 4 years of our nation are going to look very different.

But instead, of being fearful or worried about what the future holds, we must intentionally decide to trust in God. And rather than trying to explain His will, we need to intentionally trust that His ways are just.

As one of my facebook friends wrote on her wall:
Regardless of the election results, this is what we can be sure of:

1. God will still be on His throne
2. Jesus will still be King of kings and Lord of lords.
3. The Bible will still have all the answers to every problem.
4. The tomb will still be empty.
5. Jesus will still be the only way to heaven.
6. Prayer will still work – it will still make a difference and God will still answer prayer.
7. The cross, not the government, will still be our salvation.
8. There will still be room at the cross.
9. Jesus will still save anyone who places their faith and trust in Him.
10. God will still be with us always – He will never leave us or forsake us.