Ultimately, we think we know a thing or two about love when we get married, but God, who IS love, keeps working out what love looks like practically, day to day, and I realize how much I have to learn!
We realize that we are two flawed people that need Christ everyday. Satan tries to rip you apart every day with bad moods and harsh words. We are not experts yet but we pray, say "I love you", and say something encouraging to each other.
When he first asked me out I asked if he was joking! We were friends and I hadn’t considered the possibility of us dating.
God put rules in place to protect us, not hinder us from pleasure. He already knows the shame and guilt that come with having an intimate relationship with someone outside of marriage (whether or not you stay together) and the pain it can cause. He also knows the joy and connection a sexual relationship brings within marriage. It's amazing how God designed sex to strengthen the relationship between husband and wife.
Believe it or not, my favorite Valentine’s memory was the year before I started dating Gerald. At the time I wasn’t dating anyone and was feeling sorry for myself and wondering if I would ever meet someone who would love me, when the Holy Spirit reminded me that God’s love is greater than any man could give. I was overwhelmed with a sense of joy and delight as I realized “how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ” (Eph. 3:18) and I knew then that His love is enough for me.
We sent some Q&A to some of our favorite couples to get their advice on life, love, and keeping God at the center of it all, including... what qualities did you look for in a husband? What's your best advice to young women in dating relationships?What's your best advice for those pursuing sexual purity?
I remember hearing at freshman orientation that “most students change their major at least once during their college career.” And I thought to myself “Yeah, right. That’ll never be me.”
In reality, I’m sure that no one is surprised that I’m not perfect. But in my flesh, I desire to be thought of highly. If people know that I still struggle, then they won’t think I’m a good Christian. The flaws in these statements are twofold. These lies can only be debunked with the truth of the gospel that has the power to loosen the chains that binds us. Read on to find the truths that have helped me find freedom in Christ.
"Are you really going to stick to your whole purity ring thing? Like, you know, wait until you’re married to have sex?" I was shocked. I couldn’t believe my friends would even consider asking me such a question. They knew my conviction on this subject. I was pretty open about it. I thought it would be normal in my circle of influence to wait until marriage to have sex with my husband. I thought that was a common conviction of women in the church. I thought all girls were being taught the same message about sex that I was taught at an Across My Heart retreat almost eight years ago. So why was it such a surprise to my friends that I was going to wait?
This is the story of a young Christian girl who didn’t want to lose her boyfriend and agreed to have sex with him. The story of a girl living a double life and now stuck with a difficult decision to make. The story of how one life was ended to try and salvage another that was left in pieces.