Love Thy Body: How to Love Your Body in a World That Hates Theirs

Have you ever wondered why the gospel of John emphasizes that Jesus “became flesh”?  Well, maybe that’s not the kind of stuff that keeps you up at night. But if you want to know what the Bible has to say about abortion, transgenderism, and sexuality, I think you’ll find this interesting. In her book, Love Thy Body, Nancy Pearcey argues that the Bible has a positive sexual ethic because all throughout the Bible, the body is treated as a good part of God’s creation.

The Body Matters to the Gospel

Think about it. Each one of the gospels emphasize the incarnation, that Jesus was human. He had a human body. His feet were dusty after a long day’s walk. He could smell the sweet aroma of that alabaster perfume. He felt the pain of losing a loved one and probably had to make awkward small talk at times. He and ate and drank. He even napped on a boat. Jesus knew what it meant to be human.

Even after His resurrection, He returned to His physical body. The gospel writers described how the apostles felt the scars in Jesus’ hands. This emphasis on His physical humanity was an important contrast to Gnosticism, a rampant philosophy during the early church that thought the point of life was to escape the body. They claimed that God would never have become man because the body was evil and the soul was all that mattered.

Unfortunately this kind of thinking is still around today in the philosophy known as Cartesian Dualism. Rather than the soul, it is the mind/will/emotions that are considered more important than the body, the mental greater than the physical.

The ways We Hate our Bodies

In sharp contrast to Gnosticism, scripture tells us that our bodies are part of God’s good design. They are part of what it means to be human. And they are meant to be treated with respect as temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Cor 6:19)

Yet we as people mistreat our bodies all the time. We starve them to achieve a certain image. Irresponsibly bond them to a stranger for one night of pleasure. Alter their natural anatomy through reassignment surgeries. Discard a child’s body through abortion. 

When the body and soul (mind, will, emotions) are seen as two separate parts instead of a whole, it’s the natural result that the body is mistreated. This is what Nancy Pearcey breaks down in each chapter of her book, demonstrating the effect that dualism has had on our sexual ethic today:

Abortion:

From the moment of conception, a human being is growing in the mothers womb. No respectable scientist denies that. It isn’t any other creature or alien lifeform. The fetus is undeniably human, so how can the world justify abortion? Because it isn’t considered a person under the 14th amendment. That’s how the case of Roe V. Wade was ruled. The problem is, no major bioethicist agrees on when you become a person with an autonomous will. Is it the third trimester? When the baby is fully formed? The moment we are born? Or when we can survive on our own? Modern science doesn’t give us a definitive answer. So in the meantime, it simply disconnects the human body from the whole person and treats it as an expendable biological organism.  (pp. 47-82).

Sex:

Bodies are used and often abused as instruments for physical pleasure, disconnected from the deeper person with an emotional need for love. Sex Ed classes teach how to use contraceptives and prevent disease but say little about protecting the heart or fostering romance. Our culture tries to create a distinct line between the physical and emotional ramifications of sex, acting as if one night stands and multiple sex partners have no effect on the person as a whole. Those who can separate sex from love are seen as sophisticated. Conversely those who still dream of love are immature and should return until they are callous enough to seek sexual non-intimacy. (pp. 117-154).

Homosexuality and Transgenderism:

Anatomically, heterosexuality is normal for humans. But our heart’s desire for same-sex attraction silences the design of the body in favor of following the heart. This narrative refuses to admit that the body could be correct. Likewise, transgendersim favors feelings over the body’s inherent design, choosing to trust the heart over and above the testimony of creation. (pp. 155-192).

In each area, the conclusion is the same: the mental is more important than the physical body. But, as Christians, we know that our bodies are an important part of God’s creation, and they matter deeply to the gospel. Rather than hate our bodies, we should Love Thy Body.

I like this quote by C. S. Lewis. He responds to the physicality of Christian spirituality in Mere Christianity by writing, “There is no good trying to be more spiritual than God. God never meant man to be a purely spiritual creature… He likes matter. He invented it.

Our Bodies Speak to Their Purpose

Let’s make this clear. As Christians, we believe that physical things were created for a purpose and speak to that purpose. We have legs to run. Birds have wings to fly. We were given bodies for a reason. So we can assert that the body itself reveals something about what it means to be human.

While evolutionists believe that everything is random, by chance, without a plan or a purpose. We believe God has an intended purpose behind everything He has designed. Early church fathers called this the general revelation of creation. The heavens declare the glory of God (Psalm 19:1)! We can learn truths about God through his created world. 

Romans 1:20, “Since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities – his eternal power and divine nature – have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made

A Brief Case Study

So let’s take a moment to think about homosexuality within the context of purposeful design. The way that we, as women, were anatomically designed complements a man’s body. When a woman pursues same-sex attraction, she blatantly ignores her body’s design and instead follows her heart’s desire. 

The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? 
Jeremiah 17:9  NIV 

This is a major problem. Because the Bible tells us our hearts are deceptive, but our bodies aren’t perfect either. So what do we do when our hearts are in disagreement with our bodies? We aren’t called to simply choose one over the other; we are called to follow God’s Word.

In this case, the general revelation of our anatomical bodies agrees with the special revelation of God’s Word. It is a consistent design that testifies to His truth: male and female were created, one for the other. The anatomy and physiology of our body actually points toward the heterosexual monogamy that God intended. Kinda cool, huh?

In her book, Nancy Pearcey concludes the conversation on homosexuality and every other area of sexual ethics with the same premise: You were made with a purpose for a purpose. And our human bodies, as a part of God’s created order, have a built-in design that shouldn’t be silenced. We shouldn’t hate our bodies or tell them to shut up. We should love our bodies and treat them with dignity and respect, and we should extend that same love toward every other human, male or female, black or white, elderly or unborn.

“The goal is not to win a culture war or to impose our views on others but to love our neighbor which means working for our neighbors good.” (Pearcey, 46).

The Call to Live out God’s Design

We are holistic beings. We aren’t just a soul with a body. We are bodies and souls, united as one (Ps 63:1, Ps 44:25). Therefore, every sexual decision is a spiritual one.

What we do with our bodies matters deeply to the gospel. When we submit to Him, body and soul, we are demonstrating total surrender to His Truth, and as holistic beings, giving testimony to God’s authority to speak into every aspect of who we are. That’s the best way to love your body.

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