“One day my prince will come,” the words of Snow White echo in the hearts of many as we daydream of the day when we’ll be swept off our feet. This idea has slowly infiltrated our culture and told us that one day we’ll find our soulmate, and largely that it ultimately does not matter what we do or don’t do, but they’ll be coming for us when the time is right.
As a 29 year old single woman, it sure would be convenient if that were the case, but from reading through the Bible and watching enough real life “love stories” unfold, it’s become abundantly clear to me that determining our “soulmate” boils down to our choice. Granted, we do tend to have more of a natural chemistry with some people more than others, or perhaps we have our dream list and some will fit those characteristics more than others which makes it more natural to be drawn to them, but love is not predestined. It is a choice.
It takes courage to love another
The reality is, all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). In this highly imperfect world, that means that whoever we choose to marry, or not marry, will ultimately prove to not be perfect, in the same way you’re far from perfect. In the same way a future spouse will need to have grace for you, you will have to have grace for him. Love always takes effort, and it always takes courage.
When you know he’s the one
There may not be one soul mate that we are destined to find but there is One Lover of our souls. His love is the model for ours.
John 13:34, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.
His love for the church is the perfect picture for husbands and wives.
Ephesians 5:31-32, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one. This is a great mystery, and I take it to mean Christ and the church.”
Just as His love is exclusive, and we are to have no other gods, our love for our future spouse will be exclusive. We are to have no other lovers. When you say I do, you are saying he is your one and only sole mate. That’s when he will become “the one”!
I know it seems scary to step into the unknown. There is always vulnerability when risking one’s heart, but with Godly wisdom, counsel (Proverbs 12:15) and the Holy Spirit, we can wisely choose where to invest our hearts.