How Perfectionism Drove Me to Pornography.

To be honest, this is probably one of the hardest things I have ever written about. God placed this idea on my heart for a while now, and I’ve avoided it like crazy. But here I am. I’ll let you decide who won that argument.

You ever meet those people who walk around classrooms fixing every table so that they’re all lined up perfectly to one another? Or the kind who go around working every little detail that doesn’t make sense to them? Or better yet, the ones who come across as super controlling and an idea generally never works for them unless it’s theirs?

Yes. I am all the above. Every single one.

I absolutely Love to plan things and I LOVE when things turn out PERFECT to the T…at least my version of perfect, anyway.

I think that in many ways, our culture glorifies this. The idea that we need to know what we’re doing and that we need to constantly be pushing ourselves to not just win some sort of (success) race, but to win that race by ten miles. Coming in first is no longer enough. In order to be happy, life needs to be perfect, Right?

I mean, how many times have we watched movies in which the woman is looking for the ‘perfect’ man or someone is looking for the ‘perfect’ job? How often has that happy ending been the ‘perfect‘ ending–where everything goes back to the way it’s supposed to be?

But here’s the real truth:
My obsession with perfectionism, drove me into an addiction to pornography.

Growing up as a pastor’s kid, I never thought that I would ever struggle with porn. And I was a woman, so the odds of me ever dealing with something like this were super slim…right?

That was probably the first mistake I made: When we underestimate the power of temptation, we fall right into it.

How does perfectionism play into this?

You see, when you constantly live with the idea that life needs to be perfect in order for you to attain true joy, you get muddled up into a whole lot of bad habits because you’re chasing after something that really isn’t there.

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Epic zits of giant proportions

We’ve all had those days. The ones where we wake up in the morning, feeling pretty good about ourselves, and then, we look in the mirror. And, we see it. The red, ominous dot on the center of our face… the zit.

Anyone who has been to an Across My Heart retreat, probably remember’s Ashley’s stories about zits. Getting a white head so big that it squirts the mirror and sprayed her in the mouth…. or the time she was too embarrassed to open the front door for her next door neighbor because she had terrible acne and hadn’t put on any make-up for the day. Yeah… embarrassing stuff. But, hopefully you also remember the point to those gruesome stories.

The punchline goes like this: When we find our confidence in what we look like, we freak out. Because, no matter how pretty you are or how pretty you think that you are, it’s inevitable that you’re going to have one of “those” days. If we find our confidence in what we look like, we’ll be disappointed.

But, when we find our confidence in who God is, we’ll never be disappointed. If we realize that his plan for our life is bigger than a bad hair day or a zit on our face, we don’t have to freak out over our outward appearance. Instead, focus on who you are inside. Because who you are is what God cares most about. And, he has great plans for you.

Fashion in Color…

Every season Pantone publishes a new color pallet for the upcoming fashion cycle. This fashion by Pamella Protzel-Scott incorporates the color Lemon Zest for a cheerful, western sunshine inspired look. Don’t you just loveeeee it?!! I would wear it (with leggings, of course)! Would you?

Ella Moss

Western Wild and The Sunshine State inspires cheerful optimism

prominent colors
Deep Raspberry paired back to Cool Mint; Bright Chambray mixed with Sunshine Yellow; Peacock Blue and Acid Green; Neon Pink paired back to Icy Cool Gray

signature color
Citron Yellow — its bright sunshine tone is optimistic and playful for spring

must-have item
The fit and flare dress in Citron Yellow floral

Is there a color that complements all skin tones?
I tend to lean towards bolder, deeper hues and neutral shades. I think that Navy Blue is a color that works on all skin tones.

Fashion designers put so much thought behind their clothing, it’s almost like a form of artwork. But where does fashion fit into the life of a believer?

I Peter 3:3-4 says, “Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”

Uh oh! Does this mean we shouldn’t care about fashion?

Absolutely NOT!

The verse doesn’t say that we can’t wear gold jewelry or beautiful clothing. It says we cannot ADORN ourselves with those things.

Our adornment should be worn in our heart with beauty and grace. We can wear fancy clothes and diamond rings… we just can’t find our beauty in those things. Our worth comes from God. It should be our number one goal to fashion our inner lives with beauty and grace and then we can enjoy dressing up the outside! It just can’t be our priority!

The Ultimate Designer….


Design. The elements of design include texture and structure, linen and lines, color and contrast, shape and shading, layout and layers, fonts and the list goes on forever….

We see interior design inside of homes.


We see architectural design in buildings.


We see fashion design on people.


We see God’s design in nature.


And it isn’t surprising that the last image is the most spectacular of all. It is far beyond any design that man could accomplish. Because God isn’t just a designer. He is the One and Only True Designer. All things on heaven and earth were formed under His power. He breathed everything into existence. And we have the privileged of using the materials and the creative minds He gave us to make beautiful things.

Acts 17:24, “The God who made the world and everything in it is the Lord of heaven and earth and does not live in temples built by hands.”


Dove hair products launched a new campaign featuring the cartoons we know and love! I really respect their creativity! Rather than using images of sensual models with sex appeal, they thought outside the box and used images that are fun and fresh!