In a beautiful, yet little known track called If I knew, off of his latest album, Bruno Mars sings:
“I wouldn’t have done all the things that I have done/If I knew one day you’d come.”
The entire song is about how when he meets the woman of his dreams, he wishes he could give her “all of the innocence” that she gives to him. I encourage you to give the song a listen; don’t worry, it’s relatively short…
The first time I heard this song, I was shocked that a secular artist would admit that sexual immorality is not a wise long-term move. You see, purity is not just a Christian thing that we do because we are “good kids”, and we want to keep our parents happy.
God encourages purity because He loves us, and He knows there is no way we will ever regret choosing purity. Yet there are countless ways the lack of purity can bring about devastation. In my 24 years of life, I have never met anyone who says they wish they hadn’t saved themselves and their hearts for marriage. I have however met a tragic number of those who, like Bruno Mars, wish they had been wise enough to choose purity from the start.
Truth is, most of us have a strong desire to be married someday, a beautiful and God-given desire. The song greatly emphasizes how Bruno wouldn’t have done the immoral things he had done if he knew one day she’d come. If we desire marriage and are seeking after God, there is an incredibly good chance we will one day have that special someone come into our lives…after all, God is a big fan of marriage, He did create it.
Let’s not wind up with regrets like Bruno Mars where he is pleading with his dream girl to believe him that he would do it differently if he could. For me, that is a conversation I’d rather never have to have, and I hope you agree.
So ladies, instead of living 100% in the now and making impulsive decisions like many of our friends and celebrity icons. Let’s start thinking about the future. Let’s focus on when we someday meet that handsome man who we will want to give everything to on our wedding day and every day thereafter, and let’s make choices that will make our lives as joyous and baggage free as they can possibly be. In reference to what a Godly wife looks like, in Proverbs 31:12 it says, “She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” Let’s start living intentionally today so we can be a blessing to that man we may meet tomorrow…or 10 years from now.
Guest Columnist: Laura Coulier